With the arrival of pumpkin spice in everything from coffee to donuts, signs of the fall season are upon us. Fall is the gateway to celebrations such as Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas and Kwanzaa—and with holiday schedules, family gatherings, and parties, high emotions and stress are never too far behind. For those going through or recently emerging from a divorce, this time of year can bring a more profound sense of anxiety with a wide range of challenges and emotional hurdles. Coping with the end of a marriage and settling into your “new normal” during the holidays requires resilience, self-care and a mindful approach.

We often associate holidays with joyful family gatherings. But the reality is that divorce changes the entire family dynamic. This may be the first time you and your immediate family are not with your children for a specific holiday. While you may be comforted knowing that next year’s holiday will be your turn, if you alternate the celebrations, there’s no question that the first year will be particularly hard.