If a parent claims a child is abused (hereinafter referred to as protective parent) by the other parent (hereinafter referred to as abusive parent) during a divorce, the protective parent often becomes a target of having caused an estranged relationship between the protective parent and the abusive parent. The child's disclosure about abuse by the abusive parent and the fact that a child disclosed to a protective parent often gets lost amid those attacks. The child's accusation may never even be heard as a separate abuse matter by the court. This is true even where reports are made to child protective service (CPS) agencies by therapists and others even before a custody matter comes to court. Indeed if CPS does not make a finding of abuse, that factor alone may add fodder to the attacks against the protective parent by the abusive parent.