Facebook and Instagram make it possible to follow and connect with our "friends" any time of day or night, "Air tags" keep track of keys, cell phones and luggage. GPS instantly lets us know the "location" of middle and high school children experimenting with their independence. Doorbell cameras make it easy to avoid unwanted visitors and monitor our homes from anywhere and "Nanny Cams" provide peace of mind for working parents. Shared cell phone plans, e-mail and calendars keep families organized and informed.

Dina de Giorgio of Schwartz Sladkus Reich Greenberg Atlas. Courtesy photo

For the most part, technology is good, and using it makes our lives better. But when couples find themselves in a contentious divorce, the rules about the use of technology change. The same technology that parents and spouses use to connect with one another often becomes tools for "cyber spying" in a divorce. It is essential, as soon as you are retained, to advise clients how to modify their use of technology to protect themselves and their children and be clear about the consequences of using technology for "cyber spying" during a divorce.