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For students, the end of one semester and anticipation about the next bring highs and lows. Anxiety becomes compounded this time of year. This is an opportune moment to remind the students and children in our lives that no matter the circumstances beyond our control, we remain in charge of two things: our focus and how we treat other people. In that regard, I shared with my children and students these five resolutions to consider for the new semester and the New Year.

1. Resolve to know your worth.

Comparison is self-sabotage. If you compare yourself to others you will become arrogant or insecure. Do not do that. Pay less attention to social media and more attention to finding out how your aptitudes can meet the world's needs. Try to keep your ego out of your efforts. You are achieving for something greater and mightier than just you. No matter the context, you are working to be an instrument of justice and mercy. You are striving for all of the people who sacrificed and struggled so that you could be here right now. Whether in body or spirit, they are cheering you on.

As you process the semester that just ended, do not get thrown off by any grade, rejection or temporary setback. Think of every grade that comes in as information – a diagnostic tool that tells you where you hit or missed the mark so that next time the result will be better.

Remember that the race is long. Take the long view. Shooting stars burn out quickly. Cultivate staying power, persistence and resilience. The door that doesn't open at first is locked for now for a reason. But that doesn't mean you don't try other keys and other doors. The best is yet to be, and what is for you will not pass you by.

2. Resolve to keep showing up.

Keep casting out your lines even when it seems that you are entirely unsure about what the future holds. Trust. There is indeed a star that you are under, and life is with you. Decide every day (because it is a choice) that you are with life.

3. Resolve to be the most grateful person in the room.

Notice every act of kindness and every demonstration of excellence. Then talk about those. Decide to be motivated by what you admire, rather than repulsed by what you detest. Express your gratitude out loud, whether in the form of a generous word, a thank you note, or a small gift.

4. Resolve to treat people not necessarily as they are, but as they could be.

People meet us at our level of expectations for them. So does life. Generously give the benefit of the doubt. Stubbornly presume the best about others, look for their virtue rather than complain about their shortcomings, and forgive often.

5. Resolve to teach what you are learning.

Compassion must be taught in every classroom. The core principles of good citizenship must be taught. Volunteer to teach a civics class in your local school. Cherish our democracy. Teach and safeguard the values and liberties that underscore our nation's most essential assurances. Mentor students in lower grades. Inspire those who come after you.

Use your emerging expertise to show the people who succeed you that the dream is still attainable. Give voice to those yet to find their own. Be a force for good.

One day soon, you will use your stature and knowledge to ease the pain and worry of others. On that day, you will achieve even more than success. You will achieve significance.

Paula A. Franzese is Peter W. Rodino Professor of Law at Seton Hall University School of Law in Newark.